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Tuesday, June 21st, 2011
I am not sure this was the best topic for a speech but I think it demonstrates how to use language that is best for your audience. See my previous post to compare.
Butch’s point was “Don’t, let a girl put anything over on you.” Because of its human interest, romantic angle, and surprise ending, this illustration was well received by the students. Later, how¬ever, he put the story in a talking picture frame. Told it as people would expect Butch to talk and the way college students would really like to hear it. He dramatized it, and spoke as though the event were happening. at that very moment right before the audience’s eyes. He also gave the talk a title:
THE FLUFF OFF
Last week I was sprawled on my bunk in the dorm when the ‘phone rang.
I hopped up and answered.
Sweet momma! Who could she be?
Sue? Yeah, man. (A doll in anyone’s arms).
“Would I what, Sue . . . Take you to a party?”
“Well – er – well, er – YES!”
Dig that, man! Queenie askin’ me — a li’l ol’ freshman to strong-arm her to the party, with all the upper-class wolves glarin’ green-eyed.
I scraped the grouch-bag and dug up fifteen dollars for an orchid.
Queenie must have the best!
An hour later at the party, Queenie said, “Do you know why I asked you to bring me to this party, Butch?”
“No. I wondered.”
“I’m going with two fellows. And as I don’t want to hurt either of their feelings I asked you to bring me tonight.”
“Oh, I see. Back home, in Massachusetts, they’d call me the ‘fall-guy.’”
“Oh, no, Butch. Don’t feel that way about it … Butch . . .”
“This orchid’s nice. But it is rather small.”
(Small! Fifteen bucks! Small?)—This to myself of course,
. . . And so on into the evening.
Finally I took her home.
We stood at the door.
There was no good-night kiss. Just a frown from me, as I looked at my watch and exclaimed, “Oh, it’s after twelve o’clock! And I promised my wife I’d be home before midnight!”
Within reason a speaker speaks the language of his audience. As a person wears clothes suitable for the occasion, a style of speaking should also be in harmony with circumstances and in keeping with the audience’s tastes. Naturally if Butch were speaking to a group of teachers about the kind of textbooks students like he would adjust his manner to suit the subject and audience, yet he could still be natural and interesting.
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Saturday, May 28th, 2011
Here is an example of someone who tried to speak in a different accent and someone who spoke naturally and the impact it has on being persuasive or not
For instance, a college student talked with a decided eastern accent. Although he’d perfected this accent well, and he was a clever actor, his speaking wasn’t natural for him. Investigation uncovered that this student was a native mid-westerner however that he hated his “hill-billy” environment. He signed up at Harvard University, but after a few months went back to his native haunts. He brought back with him, however, the Harvard method of talking. Even now he has continued speaking in that manner, most likely not realizing his unnatural-ness, clever as it is, has detracted from his ability to persuade. Once in class he said, “My ten-year-old son said, ‘Fathah, if I talked like you the boys just wouldn’t play with me at all.’ So I haven’t encouraged him to talk like me because evah pe’son must be himself!”
Audience members want to feel that a presenter is genuine, trustworthy, and dependable. And in most cases, however not at all times, they can tell when he lacks those particular qualities. No matter how loudly a public speaker yells, “I am sincere, honest, and dependable!” or no matter how much he purposely attempts to impress individuals with his virtues, his persuasive efforts will usually be fruitless unless those commendable qualities are an ingrained part of his personality. The very fact that a speaker tries consciously to impress his honesty upon an audience may be proof that he lacks this attribute.
Capable personality articulates a subtle, sub-conscious, yet a highly persuasive, language.
For instance, by no stretch of the imagination can Homer Osborn, a grower in Southern Indiana, have been called a 2nd Winston Churchill. He didn’t know the power of words, neither was he very skilled in presenting! However he did possess some basic personal qualities which added definitely to his persuasiveness when from time to time he did address people in his community:
1. He was as genuine as a gold nugget.
2. He thoroughly believed every thing he explained.
3. He was very humble but believed in himself and in others.
4. His honesty, frankness, truthfulness, courage, earnestness, and optimism induced people to trust and to really like him.
5.Even though he never attended college, his knowledge and good common sense was admired.
6.People knew they could rely upon him and what he said as certainly as they might anticipate a sunrise in August.
7. He had a firm, sensible faith in God to Whom he turned for extra wisdom and strength.
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Wednesday, January 26th, 2011
Being able to speak with confidence in public speaking is a challenge for a great number of people. But it doesn’t have to be you. Many of today’s confident speakers did not have the ability to speak with confidence when they started out. They have gone from nervous speakers to where they can now deliver a speech confidently and fluently.
Why Speak With Confidence
Having the ability to speak with confidence has a number of benefits for the individual. Some of the benefits are; performing better at job interviews, getting noticed by your boss, getting promoted, demonstrating leadership qualities, better team meetings, winning more business, being able to influence others.
Speak With Confidence Techniques
It is quite normal to have nerves before you start to speak, it shows you care about what you are about to present. This is normally at its worst just before you start to speak. Take a few deep breaths to relax yourself. Smile a genuine smile as this not only makes you feel better but conveys confidence to your audience. Look out your audience and you will find they are not too bad. Don’t focus on your nerves but on what you are to present.
The following two ideas will give you logical reasons to speak with confidence.
Being thoroughly prepared for your speech helps you to build your confidence. This involves knowing your audience, planning what you are going to say, how you are going to say it, researching your topic and knowing what your purpose for delivering the speech is.
An Important Speak With Confidence Idea
The activity that does the most to develop the ability to speak with confidence is practice. It is by practicing and doing that builds your confidence. There are two types of practice that will help.
The first is to use every opportunity to speak up. Start small, a couple of minutes are all you need and if possible do this in situations where you are comfortable, such as with people you know. As your confidence grows start speaking for longer and to larger groups.
The second type of practice that helps to speak with confidence is to practice your speech before you have to deliver it. Practice in front of a mirror, in front of friends until you are comfortable in delivering your speech.
Nervousness and fear of public speaking will not be overcome overnight but with more speeches given you will quickly develop the ability to speak with confidence. Anyone can develop the skill to speak with confidence and in time become an exceptional presenter.
Saturday, June 19th, 2010
Once you have written a speech or presentation then it is important to practise your delivery. There are basically two ways to practise a speech, inputting and outputting. Inputting is reading your speech to yourself whereas outputting is actually delivering your speech out loud. You should practise using both methods but there are ways to maximize your results.
To input your speech all you need to do is sit down in a quiet room, free from disturbances, and read your notes to yourself. This aides in memorizing your speech so you can make eye contact with your audience as opposed to just reading from your notes. You may also spot small mistakes at this stage that you can correct before moving to the outputting process. There are no real keys or tricks to this method, only constant repetition.
There any many different tricks you can use to improve your outputting your speech. To perform at your best on the day of your speech you should aim to replicate the conditions you will be giving your speech in during practice.
Variables you need to consider when outputting your speech include whether you’ll be stood up or sat down, if you’ll have a microphone to speak into, if you have technology such as a laptop and projector at your disposal and what type of clothes you’ll be wearing. The more accurately you can simulate the conditions in which you are giving your speech the better prepared you will be.
With practice you can perfect your delivery and timing and really get to grips with what it is you are saying. However even after much practise you will probably want to write down some key notes on a piece of paper or a number of small cards. Well written notes/bullet points will help keep you on track and provide a reminder of the details you want to get across.
As one last little tip I would recommend practising your speech in front of a mirror. This will help you get used to making eye contact with an audience and quell any nerves you have about speaking in public. Just remember practice makes perfect! Jake Rhodes is the author of many self-help articles and currently runs top hypnosis site http://www.hypnobusters.com along with professional hypnotherapist, Jon Rhodes.
Friday, June 4th, 2010
Whenever a survey is published on biggest fears you can always guarantee that public speaking will be towards the top of the list. It’s easy to why this is the case – you’re stood up in front of a group of your peers purveying your thoughts and ideas. The nerves and anxiety felt by many just thinking about being in this situation is enough to put them off public speaking for life. However with correct preparation public speaking can actually be very easy and create an adrenaline rush unequalled by anything else.
Whether you just have one speech to deliver as a best man or matron of honour, or you’re a businessperson who wants to make confident presentations to enhance your position in the company then ask yourself the following questions to fully prepare for your speaking duties.
Who Will The Audience Be?
Before you give a presentation or a speech you should carefully consider exactly who the audience will comprise of. This includes how many people you will be speaking to and the relationship between yourself and the audience. The more you learn about your prospective audience the easier it will be to prepare your speech.
What Do Your Audience Want To Hear?
If you’ve been asked to give a presentation to upper management types then they’ll want to hear a lot of stats, facts and ideas for the future. On the other hand a best man’s speech will be a lot more humour based with a couple of stories and is generally best kept to a short length of time so that the festivities can continue.
How Long Do You Need To Speak For?
Always ask how long you need to speak for. “Just get up and say a few words” isn’t specific enough, push for an exact length of time. The vast majority of public speaking doesn’t last much more than five or ten minutes.
What Should The Tone Be?
Depending on who the audience are and the purpose of the speech you should be able to grasp what the tone should be. If you’re making a short speech at a close friend’s birthday party then you can afford to be a little more risqué than you could giving a eulogy at a funeral. Similarly when you’re giving a business presentation there are circumstances where you can be more informal than usual depending on who the audience are.
Where Will You Be Speaking?
Always consider where it is you’ll be speaking as it makes a big difference. If you have access to a laptop and a projector then you have the option to use visual aids which makes public speaking easier as you no longer have to worry about the audience visually focusing on you. If you’re making a wedding/party speech then there’s a good chance you’ll have a lot of background noise to contend with. Will you have a microphone or will you just have the power of your voice?
The more information you have the better. With clear guidelines you are much more likely to make a speech that stays on point and serves the purpose it was intended Jake Rhodes is the author of many self-help articles and currently runs top hypnosis site http://www.hypnobusters.com along with professional hypnotherapist, Jon Rhodes.