Speak With Confidence – Are You Friendly?

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To speak with confidence and persuasion a speaker feels that everyone in their audience deserves his very best efforts. Rather than think, “People are suckers. I’ll give them as little as possible,” he believes, “In my audience today are the most important, most deserving people in the world. They are giving me a portion of their lives and. in return deserve the very best of everything I have to offer.”
Naturally, when a person truly likes people his friendliness will become evident in various ways. The tone of his voice, his eyes, facial expression, and general bodily action will reveal his friendliness. This should never be checked or consciously withheld. A speaker should let his honest, feelings show by freely-feeling “out loud.”
A mistake some speakers make is to draw a friendship circle and consider only those people who fall within the circle to be friends. The most influential persuasive speaker feels that every¬one is his friend. He approaches each audience with a positive mental attitude that all the listeners will believe him and re¬spond favorably because they really want to.
Compare this attitude with a negative mental approach such as, “I know you don’t want to believe me. Your minds are set. You’re contrary. But what I am going to say is true. You’ll have to believe me whether you want to or not.” This attitude of course tends to put listeners on guard, causing them to build an invisible wall between themselves and the speaker. And they may say mentally, “Wait a minute, old boy, we don’t have to believe anything, least of all what you are saying.”
When a speaker steps out before an audience feeling that, instead of being on trial, they and their ideas are completely accept¬able, their self-confidence immediately starts encouraging this positive condition. Of course his liking and respect for the audience prevents his self-confidence from becoming extreme or reaching the point of egotism.
Confidence builds more confidence. Notice how this works when a team has a big rally in a baseball game. Two or three hitters smack the ball, another walks. The winning spirit is there. With added self-confidence and enthusiasm batters step up to the plate. The opposing pitcher loses some self-confidence. He thinks of the clubhouse and a shower. He sees his name in the losing column on the local sport page. All these influences have their effects.
Similarly, when a speaker steps out on a platform already feeling a winning spirit, his attitude definitely encourages that effect. Of course the opposite result is suggested when he comes out defeated before he begins.
We look upon a winner as being a happy, friendly, smiling person. Notice a team that has just lost an important basketball tournament. The players are a picture of gloom, dejection, and defeat. But see the happy winners! In a somewhat similar man¬ner, a speaker who feels themselves to be a winner will look like one. Their smile, however, will come from deep within. It will be natural, not tacked on. There will be nothing artificial or insin¬cere about him because he has a deep interest in his subject, and an eager desire to share it with listeners he likes and deeply respects.
Any “put on” manner will be resented by audiences. As Cecil B. DeMille said, “Affectedness in speech is the worst fault of all … Be yourself; your individuality is the most precious thing you possess. Let your voice be forthright and honest.”
Be your best natural self.
Friendliness and a positive approach to the audience gives the impetus to a speaker to do their best. It is this desire to help the audience is the spur to overcome any nerves and speak with confidence for successful and effective speakers.

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