Speak With Confidence – What Do You Think About?

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The way you think about public speaking can cause unnecessary anxiety and make it more difficult to speak with confidence in front of a group. They think about all the things that could go wrong.

Here are 3 ways to change your perspective and make it easier on yourself.

A cause of fear is the feeling that a speech may be criticized either secretly or openly by a listener. The speaker’s attitude should be, “I’m giving them my best. I hope that’s good enough. At this point I couldn’t do better. And if someone is unhappy with my speech, so what? Without worrying a second about any speech I’ve already delivered I’m going to put all my energy into the next speech.”

Tenseness may come when a speaker starts thinking about results, or when he mentally compares himself unfavorably with other speakers. But this condition can be avoided when the speak¬er mentally plays down the importance of his speech. Who is going to remember it a hundred years later anyway? Nobody remem¬bers the score long. Ask a dozen people to tell you the exact score of a last year’s basketball game. How many could do it?

Then too, a speaker may become afraid when he thinks he could twist his tongue or mispronounce a word — when all those brilliant people are out there listening, maybe hoping he’ll fum¬ble. If a speaker could learn to grin at an audience and go right on speaking when he makes a mistake, people would forget the mistake and remember the grin. A mistake always looks much bigger in the mind of the person who made it than in anyone else’s thinking because he is so near it. Other people are so busy thinking about themselves (and their own mistakes) they won’t remember someone else’s error long.

It is good to want to do your best but not to expect perfection from yourself. This is being too hard on yourself. It is also important to be remember that most audience’s are on your side and what you to succeed.

If you change your thinking about your speaking you can be more relaxed and this will help you speak with confidence. Don’t be too hard on yourself, most confident public speakers were in the same place when starting out.

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