Art Of Great Speaking

Jimmie Durante and Emerson had things to say about your attitude to others. With this attitude you will be more powerful and persuasive in your public speaking.

Good-natured Jimmie Durante, who considers everybody to be his friend, says, “Hatred hurts the person who hates far more than the one who is hated.” Hatred is  an emotional illness that sours and warps a speaking character. But sincere love and respect for everyone is the most powerful personal power in the world.
A speaker may have this positive perspective toward everyone when he emphasizes in his thoughts the worth of each person, when he refuses to minimize the worth of any human being. “Every person I meet is in some way my superior,” said Emerson. This kind of perspective did not cause this great speaker and writer to be timid or self-conscious. It simply helped him to like everybody in the world.
A persuasive presenter feels that everybody in his audience warrants his best possible efforts. Rather than think, “People are suckers. I’ll let them have as little as possible,” he feels, “In my audience today are the most significant, most worthy people on the planet. They are giving me a portion of their lives and in exchange are worthy of the absolute best of all things I have got to offer.”
Obviously when a person genuinely likes individuals his friendliness will become apparent in a variety of ways. The tone of his voice, his eyes, facial expression, and body language will uncover his friendliness. This should never be checked or knowingly withheld. A speaker should let his honest, feelings show by freely feeling “for all to see and hear.”
An error some presenters make is to draw a friendship circle and consider just those people that fall within the circle to be friends. Essentially the most influential convincing presenter believes that everyone is his friend. He approaches each and every audience with a positive mental attitude that all the audience members will believe him and respond favorably because they really .desire to.
Compare this perspective with a negative mental approach such as, “I know you dont want to trust me. Your minds are set. You are contrary. But what l am going to say is valid. You’ll have to trust me irrespective of whether you want to or not.” This kind of frame of mind of course has a tendency to put audience members on guard, causing them to construct an invisible wall in between them selves and the presenter. And they might say mentally, “Wait a minute, old boy, we don’t have to believe a single thing, least of all what you’re saying.”

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What is your conclusion like? Do you tailor the ending depending on your reason for speaking?

If for example the objective of your presentation is only to make people to believe, or to feel inspired and not specifically to do something (which in turn is a type of persuasion), a presenter may want to vary the conclusion by using an suitable quotation from a poet, from the Holy Bible,or from an expert on his subject matter.
As an example, in a speech named Develop a Better Sense of Humor, a speaker’s chief purpose was to show his audience the worth of humor; to assist them to feel they ought to develop a sense of humor and make them ready to do so. In fact he attempted to create an attitude rather than a need to dash to a shop for the latest joke book. Thus he finished using these statements:
So why not make humor a part of your daily living? It provides a sparkle to the eye and warmth to the heart. It brings a grin, which Henry Ward Beecher called “A light in the face.”
It goes from you to those you love and back again and again. It’s an inspiring, quickening, God-given, spiritual tonic for mind, body and soul.

Let’s accept humor into our own daily living by embracing as part of our life’s beliefs a portion of a prayer written in the Chester Cathedral in England:
Give me a sense of humor, Lord; Give me grace to see a joke, To get some happiness from life, And pass it on to other folk.

An excellent way to conclude a presentation to motivate is to follow the structure of a strong dramatic short story. Build to an intensive finish, and close on a high note. Without being melodramatic “wave the flag,”, or “sow purple patches.” Or make bands play in their souls and their feet tap to, the music as you close your speech in a blaze of glory and inspiration.
There’s perhaps no “correct” length for the closing of a speech. However the finishing should be brief instead of drawn out. Not to short, however, to seem choppy or abrupt. It ought to be full enough for an audience to feel the end has arrived. There ought to be a feeling of completeness in audiences’ minds.
Some presenters declare, “Now in conclusion,. . . ”
Stating this may not necessarily be prudent. For the reason that generally when people hear that phrase they will reach, in their thoughts at least, for their hats. Other individuals proclaim, “Hooray, hooray!” And they overlook a significant part of the speech.
Presenters who state, “Now to conclude,” and then speak all night, are merely lieing in public.
Some presenters don’t know when to finish. A regular story is told about a presenter who talked on and on and on. Ultimately he said, “Maybe I am speaking too long, but I forgot to bring my watch tonight.” .
Whereupon a worn out listener explained, “There’s a calendar behind you, mister.”
A quick opportinity for a speaker to give up his popularity is to form a practice of talking beyond his allotted time. One effective presenter said he constantly observed the three S’s of public speaking: Stand up, Speak up, and Shut up!

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Gestures in public speaking out to be natural but there are some natural gestures to avoide.

Sometimes a person, sensing that gestures of any style can enhance his presenting, makes continual pointless motions with his hands. This naturally is annoying for audience members and worse than no gesturing. A speaker need not feel obliged to make overt motions continuously. Frequently his hands ought to hang in a natural way at his / her sides, but always his / her entire body ought to be in a condition of readiness to gesture. Once this condition prevails he will “believe” and respond sensibly with his body.
Any form of doodling, both with or without a pencil, is an irritating behavior that a few speakers have. The speaker who shuffles his paperwork, removes and restores his / her spectacles periodically, rattles the change in their own pocket, scratches his scalp regularly, twirls his / her key chain, drums the stand with his / her fingers, gives his hands dry wipes, paces in a routine as he / she speaks, or even makes any unnecessary motions repeatedly, actually creates needless competition for himself. Clearly such movements shortly attract attention from a crowd and might result in listeners to think only -when is he going to cease that.
Generally, however, whenever a speaker is vitally interested in communicating ideas to an audience he / she will have neither the interest nor time to engage in distracting physical mannerisms. But even a professional speaker may have established a distracting habit so firmly he can continue it while seriously communicating. In such a case his / her coach or someone else should call his attention to the habit. Next, by becoming painfully aware of the mannerism, he / she could defeat it.
Any inclination a speaker might have to wrap himself/herself up should be avoided. Holding a speaker’s lectern and hanging on, for instance, will occupy the hands to such an degree they simply won’t bother to produce any illustrative or emphatic movements. Clasping the hands in front of the body, at the rear of the back, or folding the arms are habits that motivate a presenter to make use of little if any bodily action. A successful speaker isn’t like a soldier at parade rest, or an Indian chief during a peace treaty. However his manner is similar to that of an able boxer in boxing ring that is constantly prepared to move any part of his/her body harmoniously with the particular situation.

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