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The Quick And Easy Way To Beat Public Speaking Anxiety
The thought of public speaking is something that is enough to make anyone get nervous. It is also called stage fright or speech anxiety – the anxiousness and fear that accompanies the negative thoughts one tends to have when faced with the prospect of speaking in public or in front of a large group of people.
Everybody can fall victim to speech anxiety: even celebrities and prominent people who are regularly under the spotlight sometimes still have the “butterflies in the stomach,” the sweaty palms, and the shaking knees that accompany the fear of public speaking. The possible causes of speech anxiety are numerous.
One could be previous failure in delivering a speech. The fear of repeated failure may cause an individual to develop an extreme fear to try again. On the other hand, inexperience, or never having given a public speech, results to an almost similar fear. Another common cause is shyness. The feeling of having all eyes focused on you at a particular time can cause much anxiety for a shy person who do not normally speak too much even in front of small groups. Some people just hate being the center of attention and the feeling of conspicuousness when speaking in public increases the level of anxiety and embarrassment one feels.
Another, and easier to resolve, cause of speech anxiety is lack of preparation. Without practice, the level of discomfort in speaking words that you don’t really know by heart is considerably larger. If you are not intimately acquainted with the content of your speech, if the words coming out of your mouth are not things that you actually have strong feelings for, chances are you will have the fear of being “found out.” The chances of being provoked into discussions you think you cannot have a strong opinion about and can defend increase the level of anxiety of many public speakers.
One of the first steps in overcoming speech anxiety is to identify your personal reasons on why you fear it so. Once you are aware of the cause, you can then work on finding solutions to your concerns. Whether you fear speaking in front of thousands or even in front of one other person, there are ways to manage your fear and improve your performance. From something as simple as practicing your spiels, making use of visualizations, or self-motivation to something like searching for professional help by taking up a skills training course, speech anxiety is not without “cure.”
These actions will help you develop strategies to overcome your fears or, if not, at least handle it in such a way that your anxiety will not be evident to your audience. There are several self-help books available that discuss tips and strategies to be better communicators.
Speech anxiety is a behavioral condition that is common to all humans. Different personalities may experience different levels of such an anxiety but the good news is that it can be overcome. With proper training and practice, anybody has the potential to be an excellent speaker. Bobby Dyland is a expert on anxiety and panic attacks who recently developed a free eCourse that lists a step by step process for understanding, controlling and finally beating anxiety.
If you are interested in learning more about his “Crushing Anxiety and Reclaiming your Life” eCourse and beating panic attacks once and for all, please go here: http://www.crushanxiety.com
4 Beliefs To Beat Presentation Reluctance
Don’t let these common fears hold you back.
A line from Caroline Casey’s speech at the Green Festival intrigued me. She said, “Our security used to be in laying low. Now, our security lies in showing up.” As independent professionals, it’s more important than ever to take on the challenge and speak up for our businesses. Sure, there can be fear in giving a presentation; there’s a lot of judgment in the world. But, what would it mean to your bottom line if you gave a talk that was focused, relevant and naturally persuasive? For our businesses to flourish, it’s time to get past any reluctance and dive in. Put together a talk for a local group or consider creating an on-line seminar. Do something that stretches you.
Some people I’ve coached have had very little fear when presenting a power-point slide show for their company. But now, when it comes to talking about themselves and their businesses, the vulnerability factor kicks in. Some people have grown so accustomed to others speaking for them; the thought of standing up and using their own voice is too intimidating. Some people have been criticized so severely that they’ll go to any length to avoid giving a speech. I’ve seen people spend thousands of dollars on advertising, using it as the only component of their marketing plan. What a waste… not only of dollars, but of precious life force. When we understand where the fear comes from and work with it in a positive way, we’ll have more business than we know what to do with. Our self-confidence will be a shining light for others. Some of the most brilliant public speakers I’ve seen and coached have had the worst stage fright. They simply made a decision to do what it takes to break free of it.
So, what does it take to show up and get results?
1) A belief in your product or service so strong that it overrides any anxiety.
2) A belief that you are the perfect person to be presenting these particular ideas and suggestions.
3) A true desire to help and empower someone else.
4) A well-thought out presentation that influences your target audience to take action
When you tap into these four, you won’t be able to hold yourself back. Look for the most appropriate opportunities to communicate your message with as many people as possible. One hour in front of a large audience is ripe with possibilities. (Beware; it can have serious negative effects if done too soon without proper preparation) Any major city has hundreds of networking venues looking for speakers. A simple google search will help you find them. Watch for these common mistakes that many speakers make and get help where you need it.
1) Lack of clear, organized structure
2) Poor delivery
3) Little or no emotional or intellectual connection
4) A weak call to action
When we step into a bigger domain, our hidden issues have a way of showing up with us. All parts of us become more visible. What made us successful at one point in our lives is usually the thing that’s holding us back from our next step. Take a look. There’s a lot of potential for personal growth as well as the growth of your business. When you’re ready for a significant leap, I invite you to consider creating a dynamic speech or hosting a lively workshop.
Pamela Ziemann has been coaching people with natural, authentic presentations since 1997. Build your self-confidence by signing up for her free e-course “Answering Tough Questions in the Moment” at http://www.OnlineSpeakingSchool.com You’ll receive 6 daily lessons, plus weekly tips to help you say what you want anytime, anywhere, with anyone.
Beating The Fear Of Public Speaking
We all know that being in the public eye is not only a huge part of running a business but also a key aspect to being taken seriously as a professional in Network Marketing, Sales, Corporate Relations, etc. Unfortunately, the fear of public speaking can make or break our success in life.
Conquering the FEAR that most people experience when they speak in front of others is most easily understood in four steps that just happen to coincide with the actual letters in the word itself.
F – Fight/Flight E – Excitement A – Adrenaline Rush R – Rehearse
F – Fight/Flight A person’s initial response to an unfamiliar situation is either fight or flight. If you choose flight, then you are basically saying, “I’m out of here”. You run from being pulled out of your comfort zone and refuse the idea of change. People that seek success and aren’t afraid of confronting their fears usually make the other choice…FIGHT! They recognize that they are outside of their comfort zone and are willing to face those fears head on. Yes, it is very scary but don’t let fear take control by running away from your dreams!
E – Excitement When you make the decision to walk in front of an audience and open your heart up to a bunch of strangers, you are excited and eager to forge forward on your journey. The realization of being personally responsible for the initiation of your own dream and acting on that dream is so exciting that it is overwhelming for the human body. So, what happens next?
A – Adrenaline Rush You made the choice to fight your fear of public speaking, you’re excited about this choice and now your adrenaline begins to rush throughout your entire body. Your knees begin to knock, your hands shake, your skin becomes clammy and worst of all…YOU CAN’T BREATHE! An adrenaline rush will cause you to second guess your choice of fight, but don’t give into those negative emotions.
R- Rehearse The last and most important step in conquering your fear of public speaking is to rehearse. You must do it over and over and over again until you are comfortable in your new environment, you deliver an outstanding presentation, and you embrace your audience like you’ve known them for years. Rehearsal is the step that will determine the quality of your public speaking.
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Fear Of Public Speaking And Presentation Panic
I have just come across a couple of posts on the web that I think you will like to do with (i) public speaking fear and (ii) what to do when your presentation goes wrong.
The first is from Nick Morgan.
In Nick’s recent post he discusses public speaking fear , anxiety etc. In it he talks about the reasons that a persons fear of public speaking may have developed. But, more importantly he moves on to talk about what can be done to beat these nerves.
He identifies 3 basic categories you can work on;-
First, you can work on the speech itself
Second, you can work on your physical symptoms
Finally, you can work on your mind
You can find the details here:-
The next is by Thomas Walligum.
In Steve Jobs recent presentation to launch the next version of the iphone he ran into trouble with his presentation. Steve is recognized as one of the best presenters. By observing what he does we can all learn something that we can use in our nest presentation.
In this article Thomas outlines the situation and gives us the “takeaways” that we can use when the unexpected happens with in our presentation. The article starts as follows:
Trouble can sneak up on the best presenters—just ask Steve Jobs about his Wi-Fi connection at Monday’s iPhone 4 announcement. But you can use strategies to mitigate PPT meltdowns and awkward silences, says presentation expert and The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs author Carmine Gallo. Here are his expert tips. Read the rest by clicking here:
http://www.cio.com/article/596271/How_Steve_Jobs_Beats_Presentation_Panic?page=1&taxonomyId=3000
Let me know what you think of these posts and if you have any of your own tips.
Being Prepared Is The Way For Effective Public Speaking For The Shy And Introverted
Preparation: The Key to Public Speaking Success for Introverts*
The year was 2000. It was time to give the annual report to the Board and Suzanne, the VP of Finance, was sweating buckets. The rolls of nausea began before she moved up to the podium. With clammy hands and short breaths, she went through her Power Points, breathing a sigh of relief when the 20 minutes were up. Fast forward, seven years later. A new company and a new board waited. As the A.V. team adjusted her mike she came from behind the lectern and watched calmly, with a slight smile as the audience members filed in. The paralysis of years ago had disappeared. Under protest, Suzanne had enrolled in a Toastmasters group at her company and attended it consistently for 3 years. She took these learned skills and confidence into her work, seized every opportunity to speak in public and overcame what might have become a huge career derailer.
Warren Buffet said that public speaking can be our greatest asset or our worst liability.1 Do you experience what Suzanne felt in her earlier days or are you able to find your “voice” and give presentations with ease and confidence? Perhaps you are somewhere in between? We all have heard the statistics about people fearing public speaking more than death. Even the act of getting up and introducing themselves makes introverts in my classes anxious. Their voices and hands shake the first few times they are asked to report out to the group. However, as Warren Buffet said, presenting your ideas coherently in all kinds of situations moves your career forward. Being introverted does not mean you can’t also be a phenomenal speaker. Just like an actor goes into character in some of earlier examples in this book, you can perform brilliantly in the role. You need to educate, inform and persuade people as a leader in your organization or profession. You also need to challenge individuals to talk to you and each other. Setting the stage, by laying out a business case or problem to be solved requires you to deliver a command performance.
On some level, most people know the steps they need to take to overcome their fear of public speaking. A combination of training and, like the Nike commercial slogan “Just Do It!” is part of the formula for success. As the “Sales Guy”, Richard Elmes says, “The presentation you give tomorrow will be that much better because of the speech you delivered today.” Life is too short to be paralyzed by this fear. People need to hear what you have to say. Why rob them of that opportunity?
When I first started as a corporate trainer I spent days and days preparing for one presentation. I studied the material, tried to anticipate every question and entered the room ready to be “the expert”. Of course, I soon realized that though I felt well versed in the material, I could never be totally aware of every fact and every question that might arise. The company had hired a coach to work with our team on presentation skills. He saw my tenseness that day and before the program walked up to the lectern and said, gently, “Jennifer”, he said, “You know this material. Now enjoy the experience and relax.” His words have stuck with me over the years. The synergy of preparing the material and even more importantly, your attitude, is a winning combination for presentation success. So what are three key steps in preparing to be a more confident and competent speaker? 1) Know Your Purpose 2) Tell Stories and 3) No More PowerPoint Karaoke.
1. Know Your Purpose
You should know the purpose of your program. Is it to inform, persuade, educate or motivate? Do you know what you want people to leave with? Why should they care about what you have to say? What are the three big points you want to make? Focus in depth on these points and use lots of examples, not on numerous points that overload your audience. What do you want them to remember? This will be the basis of your talk. Your preference for introspection as an introvert will allow you to reflect on this and think it through before putting “pen to paper.” Being prepared gives you the confidence to get up there and be with your audience. Many introverted professionals I know have said that people do not believe them when they say they are introverts because they look so at ease on the stage. It is the preparation that allows them to relax into the delivery.
2. Tell Me a Story
A few years ago, I heard Montel Williams deliver a keynote speech to a room full of administrative professionals. He told a story about promoting his secretary to president of one of his companies and introduced this woman to the crowd. It was a moving moment and many of the people in the audience were visibly touched by his showcasing a living, breathing role model. The power is in example. How many times have you heard a speaker, whether it is a motivational speaker or your CEO, engage a group by sharing a story? How about a leader made a point by sharing a personal experience? The use of stories to make a point is a skill you can master.
The good news is that you can prepare and rehearse stories to bring out points a lot more powerfully than through making a case with bullet points on a slide. This can be done to motivate a team on a project that is lagging as equally as it can be used to influence customers to purchase your product. Today, stories are the key to a successful presentation.
Annette Simmons, a storytelling expert, says, “The human presence in communication is frequently elbowed out by criteria designed to make communication clear, bite sized and attention grabbing, but which instead oversimplifies, truncates and irritates. These “sub goals” often obscure the real goal: human connection. Communication can’t feel genuine without the distinctive personality of a human being to provide context. You need to show up when you communicate. The real you, not the polished, idealized you. The missing ingredient in most failed communication is humanity. This is an easy fix. In order to blend humanity into every communication you send, all you have to do is tell more stories and bingo – you just showed up. Your communication has a human presence. “2
We are not all natural born storytellers (coming from someone who forgets the punch line of most jokes!) but you can learn to tell great stories. There are sources of stories all around us, the media, books, movies, television, and etcetera. I think the most powerful stories however, come from our own experience. This is true especially when we reveal our flaws. It is then that we connect with the audience.
I remember an experience several years ago when our family went whitewater rafting. My spouse, Bill, flipped out of the raft and because I never really listened to our trusted, ponytailed guide before the trip, I practically strangled Bill in the process of “rescuing” him. I often use that story (with more graphic details of course), to make a point about the importance of listening. It certainly wasn’t funny at the time but in retrospect, with time to reflect and weave stories like that in, I can get some laughs and make a point at the same time. You can do the same.
Follow a format that works. For instance, what is the point you want to make? What was going on in the scene? What were the smells, the sights and the sounds? You can help the listener be there with you. I am so committed to tell stories in my work now that I keep a small notebook with me and jot down memories and observations. Just open your eyes and you will find stories waiting to be told.
3. No More Powerpoint Karaoke Though PowerPoint is a great tool it has become overused and over-relied on by many of us. Too many bullet points on a slide, reading the slide out loud when the audience can do it themselves and not promoting audience engagement are some negative impacts of PowerPoint. Kevin Smith, a Marketing Manager at Dell Canada put it well. “The audience showed up to hear the expert (that’s you) talk about a solution to a problem that s causing them pain, not to hear you perform “powerpoint karaoke” by reading PowerPoint off of the slides.
Instead, consider using photos, a single question, key words and even audio to make your points. Cliff Atkinson on his website, http://www.beyondbulletpoints.com, has some great examples of how to construct these types of presentations. I had a Benefits Specialist resist this approach when I suggested it to her. I advised her to suggest her audience take notes on an outlined handout and make the material available on line. You are better off providing the three key points in your presentation on your slides. By writing down the points important to them, retention will be greater and they can get more details in their follow up. I think she is kidding herself if she thinks people are retaining the myriad of benefits details she is providing. It takes a little getting used to but your audiences will appreciate it and gain more from your program. So spend some time on the front end, thinking about your purpose, preparing stories and editing your slides. With some practice, you will, like Suzanne, learn to embrace the experience of speaking to groups and your fear will melt away.
1. Buffet and Gates Go Back To School, PBS Home Video Net Foundation for Television, 2006.
2. Annette Simmons, Whoever Tells the Best Story Wins, (AMACOM 2007), 4.
* Excerpt from The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength available at Amazon for 30% off http://tinyurl.com/55f3y6
Check out Jennifer’s CD, No More PowerPoint Karaoke: Mastering Public Speaking for Introverts, available at http://www.aboutyouinc.com, and watch for her new book, The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength (Berrett Koehler Publishers), due out in June 2009. Dr. Jennifer B. Kahnweiler is a “workplace guru” who helps leaders and aspiring leaders bring out their best. She has a special expertise in helping people to strengthen the people skills necessary for workplace success.
Conquering Your Public Speaking Fear
Everyone at some point in their life will have to confront some challenges. For some people it is the fear of public speaking. It is a fear that effects so many people from young to old. The fear of public speaking is directly related to the fear of failure or the fear of being in a room full of people. Overcoming these fears may seem difficult while in the moment, but the best way of dealing with your fears is to face them directly.
Fear is a deterrent that can hold you hostage to keep you from realizing your dreams. The presence of fear itself can serve as a self destructive force that can reduce confidence in several of your everyday functions. That truth has been told so many times by the cliché “there’s nothing to fear but fear itself”. Although it may sound like just some sort of pep talk, these words are absolutely true. As a matter of fact, I am going to share with you a personal experience I had while attempting to conquer my fears of public speaking.
Until my first public speaking assignment in the fourth grade, I never knew that I had a fear of speaking in public. I was quite social at that age and I was also popular, but the thought of getting in front of the whole classroom gave me more than just butterflies. To make matters worse, I was the first one called to give my presentation to the classroom. Being that I did not have a choice, I was forced to face my fears.
The presentation seem like it took forever for me to finish. I felt like it was a never ending bad dream, but at the end of the day, I received the highest marks in the class. The fact is even the kids that were not nervous, did not do well because they were experiencing something new. The only way to overcome the fear of anything for me is practice. It is easy to fear the unknown, but until you face your fears, you will never know what it is that you actually fear.
It can be hard or even seem impossible for someone trying to overcome their fears on their own, but it doesn’t have to be. Everyone needs an inspirational friend to confide in to release the uncomfortable self doubt that fear can create. I believe that fear is just a lazy mind that needs encouragement, so I try to surround myself with motivational positive individuals. If your surroundings prevent you from finding that inspiration, you can also wrap your thoughts around a good book. I have found some great inspiration from reading the short inspirational thoughts from The Eby Way by Gary Eby.
Overcoming the fear of public speaking was a one of my greatest triumphs. The fact that I was forced to face my fears gave me an unfair advantage over someone else that has to go it alone. My advice to anyone trying to face the fear of public speaking or any other fears is to remember that many more people before you had those same fears. If they can overcome those fears to become a great success, you can also. You must also remember that you really don’t have to face your fears yourself. If you take the time to feed your mind with positive thoughts, you will be able to conquer any challenges that life can offer. Marc Marseille is ambitious thriving entrepreneur who believes that wealth and happiness is created by helping others succeed. For more about overcoming adversity you can visit The Eby Challenge.
Public Speaking And Anxiety Attacks
Panic attacks used to stop me in my tracks. When it came to public speaking, I just froze up. When you suffer from anxiety and have panic attacks, it can be an overwhelming experience. I don’t know about you, but if I have to speak in public, I’m starting to worry and panic weeks before the event even takes place. It’s a frustrating experience.
Public speaking is a very common fear. When you’re prone to panic attacks, public speaking can really push your anxiety buttons.
What exactly triggers panic attacks when speaking in public?
I know I used to turn red just standing up in a classroom and having to speak. Speaking in front of a group turned me bright red, and my heart would be racing, I just wish I knew how to stop panic attacks back then. What about office meetings? Do they make you uncomfortable also? If you’re put on the spot and have to express an opinion, do you have a panic attack? I know that it was extremely stressful, and while I knew what I wanted to say, and actually spoke, I was so overwhelmed inside, it was horrible. My pulse would be racing, I’d feel this throbbing in my head, my face would turn bright red, and my breathing would get more rapid. Let’s face it; sometimes it was really difficult to get the words out. I was capable of offering information, but the fact that I was having a panic attack made it feel near impossible. Now I know how to keep panic away, and you can too with a panic away program. You’ll be able to overcome panic attacks and finally feel comfortable with public speaking.
What exactly are people afraid of during panic attacks during public speaking?
Overcoming panic attacks means peace of mind. When you’re afraid of having a panic attach, you freeze up and are afraid you won’t be able to speak or are afraid the words won’t come out properly. This is more than jitters; this is an incredibly uncomfortable feeling when placed in front of other people. It’s a very threatening feeling inside, not your typical nerves. Unless you’ve experienced a panic attack, they can be difficult to express the fear and panic that goes along with them.
What should you do if you experience a panic attack?
Anxiety attacks often feel worse then they actually are. While they may overwhelm you, there’s isn’t an actual danger to you. This is an internal thing, and you can control the situation. Listen, a really great tip when it comes to public speaking is trying to remember it’s about the message you’re trying to convey, not about you. Take the focus off of yourself, and realize the information your expressing is good information.
So many people have a fear of public speaking, but when you mix in anxiety attacks, it can be frustrating. The first thing I’d recommend to push panic away, is to look into a panic away program.
Just because you’ve had anxiety attacks in the past, doesn’t mean you’ll have them for life. There is help, and there are ways to overcome your panic attacks. If you are ready to learn more about anxiety and panic attack treatments go on and check out the complete list of Natural Cures for Anxiety that are available now.
Beating Public Speaking Fear
he day arrives when you are going to publicly speak. You are ready. Or are you Nervous? Anxious? Terrified? Excited? Maybe all of the above? You’ve been in that situation before, haven’t you? You arrived at the venue on time in order to prepare. You are happy with the visual aids, props, room and room layout. You have checked how to use the equipment. You have completed all the planning and preparation required. You have learned and practised the presentation/speech numerous times, (not too well or it may come across as though you are reading it!!!). You have made sure you are dressed and groomed appropriately and in keeping with the audience’s expectations. Your notes are all in order. You are ready to vary the tone of your voice, to lift the energy and inspire your audience. You are focused on what the audience wants and expects. But…. …are you ready? You are still not confident, are you? It happens to us all. We are fully prepared but “just not confident enoughâ€. So how do you boost your confidence? Think about an event in the past where you did something, which worked out absolutely fantastic for you. Imagine stepping onto the stage just as confident when you were promoted or just finished a 10 mile run or asked someone out on a date and they said yes or receiving great feedback from your boss’s boss. Well you can and all it takes is practice. This is an exercise I learned from Dr Richard Bandler, the co-founder of NLP, which all super successful individuals use. Know it…use it…and you could be like them. Try this 5-minute exercise: • Imagine a time when you were super-confident • Remind yourself what happened What were people saying to you? How did you feel? What did you see? Was there any particular sounds or smells? Are you painting the picture of when you felt super-confident? Make the picture really bright and big How do you feel right now? More confident then you did 5 minutes ago? Most probably. By remembering past experiences and allowing the feelings to spread all over you, you are telling you brain that the experience is happening right now �” in this moment. This is a simple exercise to boost your confidence. Complete the exercise the next time you are about to step onto the stage. Be calm, walk on the stage or to the meeting with your head held high and make sure you are smiling. Now deliver magnificently.
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Dealing With Public Speaking Stage Fright
Are you organized for a pop quiz? Define glossophobia. If you are thoughts that this word means an intense horror of something, you are central there. Glossophobia is an acute concern of known idiom. Now heave your hand if you bear from glossophobia. Chances are, your hand is high in the air right about now. Statistics have revealed that municipal dialect anxiety is right up there with an alarm of snakes and downfall. It is sheer that known terms sends many to the depths of terror, but the good rumor is that there are methods that you can employ to overcome your known words worry.
The first question to address when confronting a community dialect phobia is why the fear exists in the first place. For most folks, the thought of status in front of a group of people makes them worry about how they will be perceived by the crowd. No one needs to be laughed at, or seen as foolish, and putting manually in the broadcast eye seems to intensify the odds of that stirring. You may be alarmed that you will forget what to say, or that you will stumble over your words. If you endure from this kind of fear of known words, here are a few tips to help you overcome them.
How to See your Audience
There is an age-old model of advice that suggests you will be minus worried before a crowd if you visualize the people in the listeners in their underwear. Most community speakers will perhaps approve that this is not the most effective way to style the viewers coolly and professionally. Perhaps a better structure is to ponder the verity that these folks want to see you work in you’re civic chatting work as much as you do. Think of the group as pulling for you, and you will have a, much better gamble of connecting with your crowd. It also helps to calculate to ten once you consider the pedestal, and, before you dawn language. This will give your audience a fortune to groom for what you have to say, and will allocate you to take hegemony of the extent. Once you open dialogue, grin and make eye call with your group to get them to reply to you with addition and enthusiasm. It may not be a relaxed mission if your knees are knocking below, but it will help you to relax a bit and gain some confidence before launch your tongue.
Of course, overcoming a communal dialogue phobia begins before you ever pierce the auditorium. If you have prepared your sermon thoroughly, and researched the scope that you will be dialogue in, the crowd that you will be talking to and the capital that you will be using, you will purely contact the happening with a great pact more confidence. It also helps to follow your oration several epoch before the big day. Don’t rely only on the mirror for your routine time each (though this is one good technique). Practice in front of your family and links, and allow them to suggest constructive opinion to help you improve. This applied will intensely help you to get gone your broadcast dialogue phobia.
Finally, consider that many people bear from the same public dialect phobia that you are experiencing. Even some prominent performers still have to wrestle with stage dread before a performance. Knowing that you are not lonely in your fear will be a great help in overcoming your public idiom phobia. And once you have delivered a few of these speeches, the treat will most definitely become much easier. Practice makes textbook or at slightest minus dreadful.
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Your Fear Of Public Speaking Is Ridiculous
I’m going to go ahead and apologize now. This article may hurt a few feelings. It may cause people to curse me. It might even cause somebody to throw something. Hopefully, it will inspire some people to trash their fear of public speaking while I’m at it.It’s been well documented that the fear of public speaking grips a good number of adults.
Public speaking is often said to rank higher on our list of fears that laying six feet deep in the dirt. Some people draw the analogy of a funeral by saying that most people would rather be in the casket than delivering the eulogy. I don’t know about you but I’m on a streak of leaving funerals alive.
Let’s dive headfirst into the Top 3 Reasons Why Public Speaking Fear is Ridiculous.
1 – It’s Unavoidable
What is that you’re saying.
You can avoid public speaking?
You don’t have to present ideas if you don’t want to?
You hate it so much that the very thought makes your stomach turn so you’ll never do it?
OK. You got me. If you prefer to live your entire life in a cave you can avoid it. If robbing yourself of the best life possible is your forte then go for it. If cowering in fear is your preferred plan then have at it. I hope you have fun and I’m glad you raised those concerns.
The story is a little different for the rest of the humans on earth. You know who I’m talking about. I’m talking about those strange people that interact with others. Those crazy people that have careers. Those insane few that attend social events with the intention of (gasp) talking to other people. Those absolutely loony married men and women who are raising a family together.
Those people absolutely can’t avoid it. I’d be willing to bet you a pair of my favorite socks that you are one of the 99.9 percent.
2 – It’s Simple
When I was in college there were quite a few classes that I didn’t care much for. Computer Science was an annoying class that didn’t interest me at all. Calculus struck me as arbitrarily overcomplicated math that someone with too much time on their hands thought up.
As much I as I hated those two they were no comparison for the class I hated the most.
That class was . . . physics.
I liked the idea of taking a physics class and learning about the world around me. The actual course design was another monster altogether. Every week there were multiple homework assignments due. Each assignment had 8 questions with 4 or 5 sub questions. Every week there was a three hour lab (Did I mention my lab was on Friday?). Once a month we would have an insane test with 8 or 9 questions on it. The room for error on those tests was 2 questions max. After that you could consider the test failed. The material was foreign and poorly explained. If you had any hope of getting a decent grade in the class then you had to commit at least 15 hours to the course each week.
Physics was the bane of my college career because it was unconstitutionally hard, boring, tedious, and time consuming. I won’t name my professors because I like to protect the innocent.
Public speaking will never rival physics on the difficulty scale. There are no ballistics, kinematics, kinetics, or gravitational force formulas to memorize and apply. When you’re speaking its usually you and 20 or so people in the room. All you have to do is grab their attention, stuff them full of good information, and give them a closing they can’t forget.
Which would you rather do?
- Calculate the thermodynamic potential of a system
- Convince 20 people that its worth their time to listen to you
I’ll take menu option #2 waiter. It looks good from here.
3 – Public Speaking is Harmless
Here’s a list of phobias that I agree and sympathize with:
- Androphobia – The fear of men (men are silly, insane, immature creatures).
- Allodoxaphobia – The fear of opinions (the world would be better off with more facts and fewer opinions).
- Caligynephobia – The fear of beautiful women (they can be so harsh when they reject you).
- Coprastasophobia – The fear of constipation (constipation isn’t fun . . . not that I would know or anything).
- Zemmiphobia – The fear of the great mole rat (never seen one but it sounds mean).
Men, beautiful women, opinions, constipation, and the great mole rat have all caused great pain. Men start wars so that beautiful women will have high opinions of them. Constipation usually puts an end to the war.
The great mole rat just has a reputation of being a mean fellow.
The only thing public speaking has ever hurt is the occasional ego or 2 (other than that its completely harmless).
Conclusion
The fear of public speaking really is ridiculous. Each of us gives some sort of public speech day in and day out. Don’t be afraid because you have to stand up in front of a group. Public speaking is an unavoidable, simple, and harmless part of life.
Embrace it as such.
Marcus Smith is a creative force in the public speaking world who strives to meet the needs of each and every client. His experience as the Toastmasters President at a fortune 15 company will prove invaluable to you.